Peeing During Sex: Is It Normal?

by Aleksandra Tomkowicz August 31, 2022

Yes, it is very common to pee during sex. You may think that you are alone, but it happens to many women. It may happen because of the pressure of your partners penis on the bladder and urethra during intercourse. Additionally, urinary incontinence can occur at the time of female orgasm, this is known as urge incontinence

The pelvic floor muscles contract and relax, which may make it difficult for a woman to control the urethral sphincter. In these types of situations, it is also necessary to check that the fluid that leaks out of the urethra is urine. There is a chance that this is the female ejaculation- thick, white liquid that comes out of the urethra during sexual arousal. This can feel very much like you need to pee.

Research shows that urinary incontinence in women is related with the occurrence of feelings of embarrassment and anxiety. Moreover, the consequences of that often includes lack of orgasm despite the presence of sexual arousal. In such situations women try to hide the problem from their partners and avoid sexual activity.

What to do to improve intimate relationships with the other half despite the problem? Talk honestly - communication is a fundamental principle of a successful relationship. If you have a problem with urinary incontinence, tell your partner about it. Together, it is easier to find a solution to this situation, and you will feel that you do not have to deal with it alone :)

Why Do I Pee During Sex?

You might pee during sex because you have urinary incontinence or you may be confusing it with female ejaculation.

A staggering 60% of women feel the urge to pee during sex.

If you are sure it is definitely urine, then this may be related to the strength of your pelvic floor muscles. The weaker your muscles are, the more likely you are to have symptoms of urinary incontinence. Bladder leakage during sex is more likely to occur if you suffer from another form of urinary incontinence.

If you have stress urinary incontinence (leakage during coughing, laughing, sneezing or exercising), you are more likely to leak during sex as well. Sexual stimulation can put pressure on the bladder and urethra and with weak pelvic floor muscles can mean that urine leaks can happen.

In addition, pelvic organ prolapse also can be a reason for your leakage. A prolapse occurs when the pelvic floor muscles are weakened, and the pelvic organs can bulge from their natural position into the vagina.

But don’t panic... You can work on your pelvic floor muscles and improve your sexual life! It is worth remembering that urinary incontinence is a condition that can and should be treated. Its symptoms may be the result of weakening of the pelvic floor muscles. However, incontinence does not have to be an obstacle to enjoying sex. There are ways to minimize urine leakage during sex! Check: How To Prevent Urinary Incontinence

How to Stop Peeing During Sex

If you are overweight, it may be helpful to lose weight. Being overweight is a factor that increases the risk of incontinence.
It is best to give up, or at least minimise processed foods, hot spices, as well as coffee, carbonated drinks, and alcohol.
You should empty the bladder before sex to reduce risk of leakage.
Trying different positions during sex also may be helpful. You can find one that won't put pressure on your bladder and help you with leaking.
Strengthen your pelvic floor muscles. The most important to help with your incontinence during sex is strengthening your pelvic floor muscles. You can even practise your Kegels (pelvic floor exercises) when having sex with your partner.

To do a correct Kegel exercise:

Sit on a firm chair or lie down with your knees slightly apart.
Tighten the ring of muscle around your back passage (anus) as though preventing a bowel movement or wind escape.
Then imagine you have to stop yourself passing urine.
Tighten the muscles around your front passages.
Now squeeze and pull up both areas (front and back passages) towards your belly button.
Hold for as many seconds as you can (up to a maximum of 10 seconds) but please remember not to hold your breath.
Relax the contraction and rest for 5 seconds. Relaxing your pelvic floor is equally important.
Repeat this 'squeeze and lift' sequence 10 times.

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Pee or Orgasm: Why Do I Feel the Need to Pee During Sex?

A staggering 60% of women feel the urge to pee during sex. Feeling like you need to pee during sex could also indicate that you're about to orgasm. Peeing during intercourse is rather a female issue, as male bodies have a natural mechanism that prevents urination if they have an erection. Of course they do!! Typical....

Some women who worry they might be urinating might actually be experiencing female ejaculation instead. The unexpected ejaculate from the urethra often causes consternation, the fear that it is urine, especially if we have not heard of this physiological process before.

There is a lot of conflicting information and research surrounding female ejaculation, some claiming that the fluid expelled by some women at orgasm is urine and only urine. Other researchers argue that the fluid is actually similar to male ejaculate. You are the judge. Some women say it looks like thick and watery and smells sweet.

Should You Pee After Sex?

No, peeing after sex is not necessary, but it might help prevent urinary tract infections (UTIs). We do recommend you pee before sex to minimise any pee leaks.

From bed to the toilet? I know that after nice moments with your partner, going to the toilet will not be as nice as staying in bed. But remember that it is easier to prevent infections than cure them. Peeing after intercourse may help you to prevent urinary tract infections which occur when bacteria enter the urinary tract and travel to your bladder.

Symptoms of a urinary tract infection include pain or a burning sensation when urinating, a frequent need to urinate and a feeling that the bladder has not been completely emptied. Other symptoms include unpleasant-smelling urine.

Good personal hygiene plays a key role in preventing infection and using the toilet after sexual intercourse is an important part of it. So, you should give it a go! 😊

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