Peeing During Sex: Is It Normal?
Updated Oct 2024
Yes, it is very normal to pee during sex. You may think that you are alone, but it happens to many women! It may happen because of the pressure of your partners penis on the bladder and urethra during intercourse. Additionally, urinary incontinence can occur at the time of female orgasm, this is known as urge incontinence.
As the pelvic floor muscles contract and relax, it can become difficult for a woman to control the urethral sphincter. In these types of situations, it is also necessary to check that the fluid that leaks out of the urethra is urine.
There is a chance that this is the female ejaculation- thick, white liquid that comes out of the urethra during sexual arousal. This can feel very much like you need to pee.
Research shows that urinary incontinence in women often makes them feel embarrassment and anxiety.
This can then result in a lack of orgasm despite the presence of sexual arousal. In such situations women often try to hide the problem from their partners or avoid sexual activity.
So what do you do if this happens to you?
Talk honestly! Communication is absolutely a fundamental principle of a successful relationship. If you have a problem with urinary incontinence or peeing during sex, tell your partner about it.
Together, it is easier to find a solution to this situation, and you will feel that you do not have to deal with it alone :)
Why Do I Pee During Sex?
You may pee during sex either because you have urinary incontinence or it may be female ejaculation. Sometimes the two are difficult to tell apart, it really depends on volume and consistency.
Female ejaculate tends to be white sweet and there is a small amount of it. Urine on the other hand tends to be clear and there's usually more of it.
In addition, if the fluid is expelled at the point of orgasm or afterwards, it is likely to be ejaculate. If it is before this, it's more likely to be urine.
If you are sure it is definitely urine, then this may be related to the strength of your pelvic floor muscles. The weaker your muscles are, the more likely you are to have symptoms of urinary incontinence. Bladder leakage during sex is more likely to occur if you suffer from another form of urinary incontinence.
If you have stress urinary incontinence (leakage during coughing, laughing, sneezing or exercising), and pelvic organ prolapse also can be a reason for your leakage.
But don’t panic... You can work on your pelvic floor muscles and improve your sexual life! It is worth remembering that urinary incontinence is a condition that can and should be treated. Its symptoms may be the result of weakening of the pelvic floor muscles.
However, incontinence does not have to be an obstacle to enjoying sex. There are ways to minimize urine leakage during sex! Check: How To Prevent Urinary Incontinence
In addition, an absorbent bed mat is a great idea and also works well for menopausal night sweats. We love the Cheeky Mattress protector which is available in single, double or king size and sits on top of your bed sheet for easy removal.
How to Stop Peeing During Sex
Here are 5 tips on how to stop peeing during sex:
Lose weight
If you are overweight, it may be helpful to lose weight. Being overweight is a factor that increases the risk of incontinence.
Change your diet
It is best to give up, or at least minimise processed foods, hot spices, as well as coffee, carbonated drinks, and alcohol.
Pee before sex
You should empty the bladder before sex to reduce risk of leakage.
To do a correct Kegel exercise:
- Sit on a firm chair or lie down with your knees slightly apart.
- Tighten the ring of muscle around your back passage (anus) as though preventing a bowel movement or wind escape.
- Then imagine you have to stop yourself passing urine.
- Tighten the muscles around your front passages.
- Now squeeze and pull up both areas (front and back passages) towards your belly button.
- Hold for as many seconds as you can (up to a maximum of 10 seconds) but please remember not to hold your breath.
- Relax the contraction and rest for 5 seconds. Relaxing your pelvic floor is equally important.
- Repeat this 'squeeze and lift' sequence 10 times.
To help you make sure you are doing everything correctly, you should check our 4 Week Pelvic Floor Muscles Workout Programme and The Secret Whispers Kegel Weights which will teach you where your correct pelvic floor muscles are. Want a better sex life? What are you waiting for... You can also use the code PELVPOWER for 10% discount.
Pee or Orgasm: Why Do I Feel the Need to Urinate During Sex?
A staggering 60% of women feel the urge to urinate during sex. Feeling like you need to pee during sex could also indicate that you're about to orgasm.
Peeing during climax is rather a female issue, as male bodies have a natural mechanism that prevents urination if they have an erection. Of course they do!! Typical....
Some women who worry they might be urinating might actually be experiencing female ejaculation instead. The unexpected ejaculate from the urethra often causes consternation, the fear that it is urine, especially if we have not heard of this physiological process before.
There is a lot of conflicting information and research surrounding female ejaculation, some claiming that the fluid expelled by some women at orgasm is urine and only urine.
Other researchers argue that the fluid is actually similar to male ejaculate. You are the judge. Some women say it looks like thick and watery and smells sweet.
Either way, it's nothing to be ashamed of!
Should You Pee After Sex?
No, peeing after sex is not necessary, but it's a really good idea to prevent urinary tract infections (UTIs). We do recommend you pee before sex to minimise any pee leaks.
From bed to the toilet? I know that after nice moments with your partner, going to the toilet will not be as nice as staying in bed. But remember that it is easier to prevent infections than cure them. Peeing after intercourse may help you to prevent urinary tract infections which occur when bacteria enter the urinary tract and travel to your bladder.
Symptoms of a urinary tract infection include pain or a burning sensation when urinating, a frequent need to urinate and a feeling that the bladder has not been completely emptied. Other symptoms include unpleasant-smelling urine.
Good personal hygiene plays a key role in preventing infection and using the toilet after sexual intercourse is an important part of it. So, you should give it a go! 😊
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To find out more you can read our other blogs:
Does Sex Help Strengthen Pelvic Floor Muscles?
How To Prevent Urinary Incontinence
The Ultimate Guide to a Strong Pelvic Floor
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About the Author: Secret Whispers was founded by Julie Colan, a dedicated mum and health enthusiast who identified a gap in effective pelvic floor strengthening solutions. Driven by her own experiences, Julie set out to enhance pelvic floor awareness and education. Helen Rankin, who founded Cheeky Wipes and Cheeky Pants and developed a range of environmentally friendly 'Simple Reusables', has now taken over Secret Whispers. Helen brings a wealth of experience in sustainable product development, recognized by the prestigious Queens Award in Enterprise for Sustainable Development in 2021. Together, their shared mission continues to empower women with reliable health and wellness solutions
