FAQs & Pelvic Floor Support

Secret Whispers Kegel weights are small and super soft. Just insert into the vagina similar to a tampon. The weights actually teach you where your correct pelvic floor muscles are. This is so important because most women struggle to locate their correct pelvic floor muscles.

Using the correct pelvic floor muscles the weights challenge your muscles. Just think of them as a little 'Dumbbell For Your Pelvic Floor'

You simply wear your weights and follow the exercise programme which is really simple and easy to do.

Just 15 Minutes a day is all that is needed.

How far up does the weights go?
The Kegel weights can never go too far so don’t worry,. They will come down into a natural resting place once inserted held by the pelvic floor muscles they won’t get lost up there don’t worry! There are no complicated gadgets or apps. This is why so many pelvic floor physios, midwives, doctors and nurses recommend our Kegel Weights because they are simple and effective. You can wear them anywhere and doing any activity.

This is the name given to describe pelvic floor contraction exercises.

Totally your decision. Many women find using lubricant or wetting the weights with water before inserting works best for them. Make sure that you use a water based lubricant only as silicone based lubricants can damage the weights.

Some women begin to feel results as quickly as 1-2 weeks, but generally most women will take 3-4 weeks of consistent use to see an improvement. Others can take many months. Depends on the strength of your pelvic floor and the effort you put in. Consistency is KEY. Your pelvic floor is a muscle like any other and the results will depend on the effort you put in.

Yes. If you have a pelvic organ prolapse or prolapses you should always try a non-invasive option before considering surgery. Always seek medical advice if needed.

Our Kegel weights are ideal for all types of pelvic floor prolapse, including cystocele (bladder prolapse – when the bladder bulges into the front wall of the vagina), rectocele (rectum prolapse – when the rectum bulges into the back wall of the vagina), uterine prolapse (when the uterus hangs down in the vagina) and Vault prolapse (after a hysterectomy has been performed, the top (or vault) of the vagina may bulge down. The weights help push the organs back into place while you exercise your pelvic floor.

Helps to increase the strength of your pelvic floor. They help your muscles to hold back your urine.

Lift your pelvic floor muscles as hard as you can (not tummy or buttocks).
* Hold the muscles tight for 10 seconds
* Relax your muscles and rest for 5 seconds
* Repeat this 10 times

Fast Contractions:

Helps your pelvic floor to cope with pressure, for example when you cough, sneeze, or laugh (Not to mention the trampoline!!). These fast contractions work the muscles that quickly shut off the flow of urine.
* Lift your pelvic floor muscles quickly
* Hold the muscles tight for 1 second
* Relax your muscles and rest for 1 second
* Repeat this 10 times

The ‘Knack’:

This method is known as ‘bracing’ yourself (by squeezing up and holding) before you cough, laugh, sneeze or lift anything (or anything else which causes you to leak urine). Incorporate this when you can. It can be 98% effective.

Firstly ensure that you have inserted them far enough. You cannot insert them them too far. They can’t get lost.

Insert as you would a tampon. They will come down a little to their natural resting place. They need to sit on the pelvic floor.

These smooth super soft weights are held in place due to the automatic contraction of the pelvic floor muscles. Your pelvic floor muscles engage to stop them falling out.

If they do slip down or fall out – firstly, don’t panic (it has happened to women who thought they had a good pelvic floor..), just simply insert again and do the Kegel contractions(the slow and fast Kegels) while lying down until you have strengthened your pelvic floor to a stage that you can then walk around with them in.

Over time your pelvic floor muscles are strengthened simply by keeping the weight from falling out and doing the Kegel contractions – the slow and fast contractions.

1. Firstly wash your hands and ensure your weights are clean by using warm soapy water.
2. Empty your bladder and bowel
3. Find a room and time where you won’t be disturbed
4. Find a comfortable position – such as leg raised on the toilet or bath
5. Insert as you would do with a tampon – It can’t go too far. Insert as high as is comfortable. They will move down to a natural resting place.
6. Insert them gently on an outward breath. Relax and remember to continue breathing
7. Use water or a water based (only) lubricant if referred
8. The cord should remain outside your body
9. Wearing underwear is recommended
Remove the weights during an outward breath (do not bear down with your pelvic floor) and wash thoroughly
Just 15 minutes a day is recommended to see results. You can leave them in slightly longer if you wish while you run, clean, do the school run, yoga class etc. However do not leave them in too long as you can over work your pelvic floor muscles too. Once you have completed the programme and your pelvic floor muscles are stronger, you just need to then use them 3 or 4 times a week. Just like going to the gym. You do still need to do your Kegels every day. Easy, as you now know to do them correctly.
Whatever you feel comfortable with. Some women like to start out lying down when they wear the weights, just until they get used to them. Then progress to sitting, standing and doing daily activities whilst the weights are in.
Totally personal choice! It is safe to use your Kegel weights during your period. Don’t worry about losing any of your hard work, just continue to do your Kegels naturally without the weights.
The weights do not hurt, on first use it may feel uncomfortable when inserted. We recommend using a water based lubricant if you find this the case.
The Kegel weights will fall into a natural position. They cannot go too far up. They should not feel uncomfortable. Take your time inserting them until you find their perfect position for you.

Absolutely! As long as you have no pelvic pain or medical issues you can safely use your weights during pregnancy. We will always advise that you speak with your pelvic floor physio or a medical professional. Pregnancy puts a lot of stress on the pelvic floor so using the Secret Whispers Kegel weights can help keep it strong, which helps with an easier delivery and recovery

Absolutely you can! Your pelvic floor muscles can be weakened after a big surgery like a hysterectomy. It is important to rebuild the strength in your pelvic floor and our Kegel Weights are a great way to do this alongside Kegel exercises.

You can indeed. IUD'S or coils sit above the cervix with tiny strings extending out into the vagina. The Kegel weights sit a lot lower than this and are unlikely to come into contact with the IUD or coil that you may have.

Absolutely! Just like a tampon use the cord at the bottom to remove on an outwards breath (be sure not to bear down on your pelvic floor) then wash your weights thoroughly.
No, you should not use vaginal weights if you have a hypertonic pelvic floor.
If you are able to remove the pessary yourself, then yes you can. You can use the weights when the pessary is removed. If it is a permanent pessary, i.e. one that only your healthcare professional can remove, then no.
CupIT Menstrual Kit

Menstrual cups are a reusable method of period protection, made of silicone or rubber. The cup is inserted into the vagina to catch period fluids. Our CupIT is made from medical grade silicone and comes in 2 different sizes.

There are so many pros to using a menstrual cup, from the advantages to the environment to your body here are some of the main reasons you may want to consider changing to a menstrual cup: • Affordable – A menstrual cup is a one off affordable purchase saving you from continually buying sanitary products. • Safer – Cups collect the blood rather than absorbing it so you are therefore not at risk of toxic shock syndrome. • Better protection – Menstrual cups can hold more blood than tampons or pads. Most cups can hold 1 or 2 ounces of blood whereas a tampon can only hold up to 1/3 of an ounce. • Eco Friendly – By making the switch you will be reducing contribution to waste.

The answer is yes, as long as you keep your menstrual cup clean and insert and remove with clean hands. They have no nasty chemicals and toxins like many tampons and pads! They are much safer than tampons as they reduce the risk of any toxic shock

It can be daunting to begin with, looking at this little silicone cup wondering how on earth to get it into the right place to do its thing. Don’t worry we are here to talk you through step by step: 1. Make sure your cup is clean with warm water 2. Make sure your hands are clean using warm soapy water 3. Relax and get into a position you feel comfortable 4. Fold the cup into either one of the 2 fold positions we recommend 5. Allow the cup to expand and form a seal in the vagina 6. You are good to go. Up to 12 hours of protection.